When you've made it through the shitshow, and you're ready to find what's next

Hey, I'm Ariel, and I believe in you

I launched my membership platform The Afterglow as a private space to get balls-deep in personal development.

Members get access to my most vulnerable work including daily videos, and weekly writings about NSFW self-dev, entrepreneurial ennui, and spiritual growth. The Afterglow is also the only place to listen to the PROS BEFORE BROS audiobook, and read deleted scenes from my latest book, From Sh!tshow To Afterglow

The Afterglow gets you intimate access and a richer experience with my work. It's sort of like a heady, existential OnlyFans... but with less boobs. My hope is that The Afterglow acts as the launchpad you to leap into an era of your most powerful personal development. 

I would love for you to be part of this exclusive tribe.


Daily movement inspo

Let's move together in the morning! This kind of daily devotional movement practice emphasizes movement as celebration, not obligation. I use insta's "close friends" feature to post movement prompts exclusively for members.

Weekly motivational emails

I email every Friday with contemplations for your weekend. My long-form essays cover everything from self-dev, spirituality, sex, relationships, entrepreneurship, and more. Each one ends with prompts for your own work.

Exclusive content portal

Members get 24/7 access to my massive online portal filled with books' worth of essays, journal prompts, erotic audiobooks, deleted chapters from Shitshow, guided meditations, resources, and more.

Membership benefit:
Deleted scenes from Sh!tshow

My third book, From Sh!tshow To Afterglow, was originally a memoir -- and a LOT of material got left on the cutting room floor. These are the chapters that were too dirty, too woo-woo, too weird, and too fucking raw for mainstream publication. Members of The Afterglow get access to 10 chapters' worth of uncut raw material - all the stuff that was too shitshowy for primetime.


The Afterglow might be for you if...

  • You're looking for motivation and tools to dig deeper into your personal development.
  • You read my third book, From Sh!tshow To Afterglow, and want more -- much, much more.
  • You've gotten a solid start in your self-dev journey, but you're feeling lonely and stuck.
  • You survived a divorce and are trying to figure out what comes next.
  • You came of age with me during the heyday of Offbeat Bride, and wish there was something like that for THIS time in your life.
  • You're sick of ad-plastered websites and algorithmically-jacked social feeds.
  • You crave connection with the creators you love. 

Membership benefit: 
"Lapdances for god" videos

As a nerd who's spent most of my life up in my brain, rattling around with the mind monkeys and studiously ignoring my body, using movement as a tool for embodied meditation and personal growth has been a game-changer in my life. I mostly dance for myself and the divine, but I share daily snippets with The Afterglow members on Insta. My intent is that they inspire members in their own movement practices, but if you just like to watch, that's fine too.


Let's deep dive into The Afterglow's membership benefits.

You get...

  • Daily movement motivation on Instagram

    I have a devotional morning practice I call "lapdances for god," where I start each day by showing up, listening to my body, and moving it in gratitude. This is about movement as a celebration, not an obligation. It's not about skill or ability -- I show and move even when I'm sick, even when all I can do is lay on the floor and wiggle my fingers. I post my practice as "close friends"-only Insta stories at @findyourafterglow, and I encourage you to join me!

  • Weekly momentum-building emails

    Every Friday, I email The Afterglow's members with inspiration and motivation for their contemplation. Some weeks, these mailers are short and sweet. Other weeks, they're a long meaty essay with journal prompts. The goal of each weekly mailer is to get you thinking, get you moving, and give you a container for self-inquiry.

  • 24/7 access to a members-only web portal

    • Massive archive of The Afterglow essays for binge-reading, with journal prompts to encourage self-inquiry
    • Audiobook for PROS BEFORE BROS: my heady, dark erotic memoir
    • Deleted scenes from my book, From Sh!tshow To Afterglow10 chapters of material that was too raw, too dirty, and too weird for primetime
    • Guided meditations and prayers, resources, and more 

Members also receive 20% off all current and future product offerings, including talismanic book pairings and online courses. The Afterglow membership launched summer 2020, and will be expanding a lot in coming months... get in now at the launch rate, because the pricing will increase as the offerings grow.

Membership benefit:

The audiobook for my second book, PROS BEFORE BROS is available exclusively to members of The Afterglow. PROS BEFORE BROS is a true story about sex work and grabbing your own healing by the balls, the narrative explores identity, feminism, shame, surrender, gender roles, bdsm, empowerment, embodiment, and trying to get out of your own damn head.


The Afterglow is NOT...

  • The Afterglow is NOT an online community. The Afterglow is here to reassure you that you're not alone, but it's not a forum or a Facebook group. It's here to hold your hand in the dark and whisper that you're not the only one feeling your way through a transformation, but it's not a place to seek advice.

  • The Afterglow is NOT group coaching. I am not a counselor or a therapist or a coach. I am not a guru. I am a storyteller. I share the rawest versions of my experiences to support you fully embracing your experiences. I crack my head open and share how I process my shit, dismantle my ego, compassionately work with my weaknesses.

  • The Afterglow is NOT a how-to program or an online course. I am not qualified to give you step-by-step answers for how to disassemble your ego, or reassemble your life. Part of this process for each of us finding the empowerment and agency to unfold in our own ways, making our own choices. Your autonomy is sovereign. In this work, I'm not your mom, your boss, or your domme.

The Afterglow is a platform to support you doing your own work, figuring out your own answers, and finding your unique afterglow.

What readers are saying...

Marie L.

Ariel pushes her readers to, well, push themselves.
Her work is honest and raw and beautiful.

Serene C.

Fuuuuck, [this] makes me feel so seen. Lots of tears (real tears)... but it's also incredibly reassuring.

Kristi K.

Ariel's self-development writing is some of my favorite... EVER, from anyone. 
Her process resonates big time.

I believe in you.

The Afterglow provides daily motivation and encouragement. I'm here to motivate you, entertain you, make you think, make you laugh, make you move.

I ask hard questions. I'm here with endless invitations for contemplation... but I am NOT here to tell you what to do. 

The Afterglow is here to empower you in finding your own answers. 

Bonus for Annual Subscribers

Luxe Afterglow Altar Set

I want your membership to The Afterglow to be a full sensory experience. I don't just want it to be words in your head, I want you to have these curated talismanic objects with you as we do this work together:

  • Luxe gold-embossed Moleskine journal
  • Handstamped raw brass Shitshow to Afterglow hoop earrings by Seattle jewelry Squirrel vs Coyote
  • Handmade Afterglow meditation candle by UNLAX Candles
  • Signed author's edition of my third book, From Sh!tshow To Afterglow

Annual members get this $200 set, and all the benefits of a monthly membership -- plus an annual discount (2 months free!).


Join The Afterglow

Scholarships available. Each month I offer five monthly membership scholarships, with priority given to BIPOC and folks living with disabilities. 

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