Find Your Afterglow

Are you on the struggle bus, looking for hope as you recover from a tough time? I'm Ariel, and I'm here to empower you to cut through all the self-dev bullshit, and help you find what works for you as you rebuild yourself.

Whether it's a break-up, break down, or breakthrough, Find Your Afterglow is here to empower you as dig in and glow up.

Enroll in one of my online courses like Lapdances4god or Healing Anxious Attachment, or join my community The Afterglow... either way, I'm here to support you in getting balls-deep in your self-inquiry!


Find your way from Sh!tshow to Afterglow

Hi, I'm Ariel, the author books like Offbeat Bride and my new book, From Sh!tshow to Afterglow: Putting Life Back Together When It All Falls Apart.

If I learned anything about shitshows, it's that they're are like a freeway: we each have different on-ramps, but once you’re on it, things move whether you want them to or not, and you can’t really slow down.

For some of us it's a divorce, for some of us it's a health scare, for some of us it's losing a job... for some of us it was just the entirety of 2020!

My personal crisis was a triple-punch of turning 40, a medical crisis, and an abrupt divorce. (WTF!)

As the dust settled, self-inquiry and personal development became hobby, my hookup, my sport, and my best friend.

It took me a few years to find the glow that comes after you heal, but now I'm here to help YOU find your afterglow: that point when you look into the gaping hole that used to be your old life and realize, "I might be able to grow some amazing things down here if I really try..."

How can I cheerlead you?

From Sh!tshow to Afterglow

Your membership to The Afterglow gets you all this...

Online Courses

If you're into getting balls-deep in self-dev with self-inquiry and tough questions, your membership gets you access to all my available courses, plus free and early access to all future courses.

Private Essays

Get immediate access to my ever-growing library of writing that's too raw and vulnerable for primetime. We're talkin' 40+ essays about relationships, spirituality, mental health, sex, and much more.

Community & Giveaways

The Afterglow is my favorite place on the internet, and I add new courses, essays, and guided meditations monthly. Plus, I host monthly chats and giveaways for members with high-value prizes!




I'm the author of three books including Offbeat Bride and From Sh!tshow To Afterglow. I've spent my entire life up in my head, nerding out and completely ignoring my body.

When my life fell apart in 2015 (medical emergency, turning 40, and my marriage abruptly ending), I tried using all my brain's best tools to heal... but it turned out my brain couldn't help. I tried everything -- reading books, talk therapy, seated meditation. My reward was crushing anxiety, insomnia, and debilitating panic attacks. 

In a moment of desperation, crying one night, I put on headphones and started dancing.

Five years later, I'm still dancing.

Now I'm stepping into a new role as a dance doula, supporting folks as they birth their own daily dance practices.⁠ ⁠

In January, I created Lapdances4god, my conscious movement online course.⁠ The course includes four weeks of daily conscious movement dance prompts, guiding students through the process of creating their own daily devotional dance practice... almost five hours of video modules!⁠ ⁠

Until now, the course has only been available to members of The Afterglow, my experimental private publication.⁠ I guess I'm shy or something? Who knew.⁠ ⁠

But now the course is available to anyone who wants to find more vitality in their body, and more connection with a spiritual practice that involves sticking your butt out!

Healing Anxious Attachment

Get lifetime access to this self-directed course

Establish your own daily devotional dance practice with this course filled with conscious embodiment exercises and encouragement. Find a great connection to your body, explore sensual movement as a way to relate to a higher power, and just enjoy sticking your butt up in the air!

$127 USD


Lapdances4god Course


One-time payment

Lifetime course access to Lapdances4god online course

Develop an at-home daily devotional dance practice -- find more vitality, joy, and connection in your body!

  • 25 video segments -- almost five hours of daily prompts
  • Learn how to access fitness as a celebration, not an obligation
  • Using movement as a magical practice, the dos and don'ts
  • Accessible to all folks regardless of age or ability
  • Group coaching
  • Course playlist

The Afterglow Membership

$99 year


  • Access to all current and future courses, including Lapdances4god, Healing Anxious Attachment, and Mindfulness & the Enneagram
  • BONUS: Immediate access to my private publication including 40+ essays on self-development, relationships, sex, spirituality, and more
  • BONUS: Become an instagram "Close Friend" for members-only behind the scenes material
  • BONUS: 15 deleted scenes from my newest book, From Sh!tshow to Afterglow
  • BONUS: Audiobook for Pros Before Bros (my erotica)
  • BONUS: Guided meditations (including my famous "This Fucking Sucks" meditation)
  • BONUS: Exclusive monthly members-only community conversations, online events, discussions, and giveaways with high-value prizes!